Life is all about experiences, situations and people one comes across and how one reacts to all of them that make it worth living and enriching. No matter, the kind of challenges life throws at you; it’s up to us how we choose to respond to it. If the situation can’t be changed or is beyond our control, how we rise above the circumstances and difficulties is what leads to our personal growth and development.
Human beings as a rule are reactive and emotional beings, getting control on those reactions is important. But, that takes time, sometimes even years to do for many. By making small changes to one’s nature, one can become a better person in the long run.
Take responsibility for your actions, and choose to develop yourself rather than getting involved in a blame game. Be grateful for what you have been given. It’s very easy to blame others for mistakes or problems. Being happy is in your control, not on others. Being proactive makes you stand out from others as they will recognise the different way you approach things and your ability to rise above issues, that in turn reflects your strong character.
Any difference in the way things are going is good, not bad. See it as an opportunity to learn something new or as a test. Sometimes, change has the potential of leading you to something better.
What you say
Your character and nature reflect in your words. There is a reason gossips are perceived with wariness. People who talk about a person behind their back are often insecure, frustrated and have self-esteem issues. Their true feelings about that person often get hidden beneath a layer of bitterness as they are unable to come to terms with it.
Apologising to another person is perhaps the hardest things to do. Whether it’s a mistake or something you said, it takes a lot of effort to own up to that and say you were wrong. Identifying and accepting your mistake shows that a person is humane and has empathy. Refusing to accept the mistake and justifying one’s actions is perceived as being uncertain and less forthcoming.
Towards the voiceless
How you treat stray animals, like dogs or cats is a sign of concern and kindness. Such people tend to be much kinder and gentle beings.